Gratitude. It goes so much deeper than simply being polite. When we are able to shift our minds into a grateful state, it changes the energy we emit – which therefore changes the energy we attract.
Of course, it’s easy in theory, but life can be challenging and hard. A lot. Plus, our social conditioning doesn’t exactly do us many favours in most cases.
I spent a large portion of my life residing in emotional states that were anything but grateful. Arrogance, bitterness, anger, resentment, jealousy were frequently if not permanently on the menu. I expected everything, but, according to my perspective, received nothing. And guess what? This just made me even more angry, bitter, jealous and resentful.
These negative emotional cycles controlled me because back then I didn’t know any better. I hadn’t yet developed the awareness needed to change. Then slowly, information started coming to me that freed me from my bondage.
I realised I had a choice. I realised I was actually the one who was in control of my mind – and not the other way around. I began to understand that the way I was choosing to behave – the emotional states I was choosing to reside in, were destructive and were not serving me or anyone surrounding me. I chose therefore to begin the process of change.
It was uncomfortable and painful, because choosing to change meant that I first had to acknowledge those darker aspects of my personality, then I had to stop fighting them. Over time I began to realise that these emotional states were obstructing me from experiencing true happiness, were preventing me from receiving and experiencing the magic that is life.
Slowly but surely, I learned how to get out of my own way…I made a conscious choice to let the arrogance go, and I started adopting humility. That was scary for me, because I had built up the arrogant side of my persona as a defence mechanism to prevent me for getting hurt. But then I came to realise that if people chose to take advantage of my humility, that is their issue, not mine. I realised I could choose whether or not to be hurt by someone.
The more I embraced humility, the more I was able to become grateful. And the more gratitude I was able to exude, the more beautiful life became. I came to fully understand the nature of the expression that one must become humble to be able to stand before God. Or, to put it another way, one must become humble in order to experience the magnificent beauty and magic of life – to experience love in its purest most potent form (and I’m not referring to human love here, I’m referring to the love that is the Divine).
Humility is the key for the gate – and gratitude is the energy that swings the gate wide open.
Humility also enables us to acknowledge that life always gives us exactly what we need, even if it isn’t what we want. If we are able to accept it and be grateful for it, rather than resist it, we will find that what we’ve been wishing for is contained within the experience. It will always provide us with a valuable opportunity for growth – which can even serve to help us help others.
In a hurting world where individualism and selfishness are rife, gratitude and humility are, from my perspective, the antidote. After gaining the knowledge of how to use the gifts of humility and gratitude, our focus should not be on material gain, but rather on how we can serve as a collective to heal the hurts of the world. The Divine intelligence in all things knows best – and if we are able to submit to humility and gratitude with a pure heart, we can rest safe in the knowledge that this infinite intelligence will guide us along the right path. Not just for our own self-gain, but for the benefit of all.
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Very well written Liz, thanks for sharing your wisdom xx
You’re so welcome angel. Thank you so much for reading x
I’m sure I’m not the only one for whom this resonates so much – thankyou so much for articulating it in your own, inimitable style Liz..love you X
Oh darling, it’s such a pleasure. Thank you so much for reading – I’m so happy it resonated with you so deeply. Love you to the stars and back x
First of all I express gratitude for your rumination. There is real strength in softness. Being open and honest in vulnerability is inspiring.
To express a truthful communication from the heart. In general for men this is hard.
This kind of reticence is not useful.
It is emotional retardation. This is why your piece offering, helps those who may not be at that stage yet, of ‘breaking through to other side.’
The verisimilitude of not knowing then what is known now, can be compared to Shakespearian line in which ‘all that glisters is not gold.’
We may feel inadequate at times, when someone else is more successful than us or better looking or whatever it is maybe.
To compare is a futile exercise. It takes real honesty to front up as it were, really scrutinise the self introspectively. Glean salient thought in testimony of experience.
You did this very well Liz. Helpful to me immensely.
Many people suppress it, embarrassed to be so candid and raw- to say it how it is to others, least of all to themselves.
There are those who live in a realm of ‘hungry ghosts,’ possessing an insatiable appetite of wanting the next best thing because somebody else has what you want. Conversely, those that have, may want the attention to validate their status, without realising the dark side of ego is insecurity. Perspective is where you sit for sun and shadow coexist in all of us.
Illuminating work well done.
Lovely Adrian, thank you so much for your insightful and beautiful words. Yes, I believe many of us labour under the illusions and delusions of the ego, somehow thinking that therein lays ‘the key’, or some form of recognition, but it ultimately leads to nowhere except a deep, dark pit. I’ve come to realise that I’ve had a very particular set of experiences that can help me to help others – so I’m choosing to put myself out there and express things from the heart. It’s scary to do so, but I feel there is something so much greater than ‘me’ driving this…so I’m surrendering to it! Thank you so much for reading lovely one. Sending much, much love your way x